Don't Feed The Narcissist
Personally I don't advocate for coparenting with a Narcissist. I advocate for severing custody.
Now that I'm an adult I have spoken to so many people who knew my Mother who knew what was going on with her (including teachers)
who failed me and my sister by not speaking out.
Times a wastin'!
Identify the Narc Parents and remove the kids from them.
A teacher as early as 5 yrs old knew. Looking back I think I would have
had a chance if I would have been removed from my mother and totally
given to my father for sole custody
Furthermore, as an Adult Child of a Narcissist, Someone has to tell the kids why the Nparent acts the way they do, or else they will blame it all on themselves, especially the scapegoat of the family. You need to inform all of the kids ASAP. before the "kid" is like me at age 34 and just finally figures it out and spends years in therapy and their life is ruined.
And falls prey to a Romantic NPD partner (as we ACONs always do)
A lot of people do not understand the difference between Romantic NPD abuse and Parental NPD abuse. Informing the child immediately when you figure out that the mate is a Narcissist and going FULL FAMILY NO CONTACT and getting everyone but the N Parent into therapy is the ONLY way to truly heal. There is nothing to gain from still being in contact with the Narcissist. If YOU don't wanna talk to him/her, why would you allow your precious child to still be in contact?
