Prologue

 

 

Prologue

I wrote this book because other books only tell you, "Don’t Smoke, it's bad for you and gives you
cancer, chew gum or suck hard candy to quit!" but they NEVER show you WHY TO DO THINGS or
detail consequences. -- they really don’t get you BEFORE you start in the first place or elaborate on
withdrawal or share the long term impact with you or tell you how hard it is to quit...

I WILL...

I will tell you bluntly and sometimes scare you with the REALITY of life and your impending
adulthood.

I wrote this book for those girls who have no Parents or absent or crazy ones. Or those girls whose
parents are super strict and/or religious and don’t understand them and can't relate to their totally
normal behaviors...(I hope a like minded Male will write a similar book for boys! Hint, Hint!)
I had a Mother but she was both neglectful AND overbearing at the same time. And she was later
diagnosed with NPD with a side order of HPD...She taught me absolutely NOTHING.
I've had to learn everything in this book the hard way, with plenty of blood, sweat and tears and
pain and no fun.

I don’t know who you are or how you got this book, or if you have to read this book secretly
because your parents wouldn’t approve of some of the subject matter... It really doesn’t matter...I
wrote it just for you. Not your parents.

JUST YOU!
NOT YOUR PARENTS!

You are NOT your Mom, nor your Dad! You aren’t your Brother or Sister, Grandparents, Aunt,
Uncle or Cousin, or Best Friend...
You aren’t even your twin sister...

You are JUST YOU!
YOUR body!
YOUR mind!
YOUR feelings!
YOUR decisions!
YOUR life!
ONLY YOURS!

In 20 years when you are in your own house, with your own kids you will be living YOUR OWN LIFE,
not anyone else's! At age 18 you will be an adult and can be held accountable for all your debts,
crimes and actions. As much as I wanted to have my Mother or EX Boyfriend pay for the debts I
feel they caused me to accrue because I was depressed over something THEY did when I went for
some retail therapy and overspent, the bankruptcy courts will not buy that reasoning.
Your Mommy nor your Daddy is gonna wipe your mouth or sop up your spilled milk anymore (if
they ever did) when you turn 18.

It will be YOUR LIFE, YOUR responsibilities, and your debts and your crimes then. I am writing this
book so that you can be happy in that life, with a Mate that super loves you and is 100% right for
you and you can look back on your life with no regrets and sorrows.
I wrote this book cause I just learned everything in it at age 39, and I do look back on my life with
sorrow and regret and I can only fantasize about the life I lost to not having a good Mother to
teach me these things and nurture me. My only hope is that you will all go forth in life and live the
life I could have had and desperately wanted but wasn’t allowed to have.

I ONLY WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY!

Please read this book and pass it on to others.