Chapter 18 - Tying it all together.

 

 

Chapter 18 - Tying it all together.

 Let's review though...

1/ Get a thorough check up
2/ Get an honest personal evaluation
3/ Stop letting OTHERS abuse you!
4/ Stop Abusing Yourself!
5/ Choose a Life Sport
6/ Stop caring what others say about you!
7/ Start taking care of yourself NOW!
8/ But if you are fat, be fat AND happy if you are fat!
9/ Learn to say YES and NO
10/ Learn to say I'M SORRY
11/ Stop fantasizing and be real...
12/ Accept Yourself
To Recap:
1) Figure out what kind of family you have and if its dysfunctional
2) If so start to detach from them emotionally and get ready to move on at age 18
3) Figure out if you are gonna Give Away, Keep or Recycle your relationship with them.
4) Go No Contact if need be or get into therapy.
To Recap:
1) Decide what kind of a person you are and want to be.
2) Do introspection and change what you can to be better.
3) Interests make you INTERESTING and goals keep you moving forward.
4) Love yourself, respect yourself and OTHERS WILL TOO.
To Recap:
1. Get to know yourself sexually and temperamentally
2. Make WISE choices, speak up, and enjoy yourself.
3. Dont be ashamed for being a sexual person.
4. Dont let guys talk you into sex before you are ready.
5. USE PROTECTION
6. If it makes you feel bad, dont do it.
7. Recognize the signs of rape and report it.
To Recap:
1. Have fun dating!
2. Do not take it too seriously.
3. Get the guy YOU NEED AND WANT
4. Stand up for yourself
5. Dont date Vultures and losers
6. Be mysterious
7. Dont have sex right away
8. Dont act desperate
9. Make him work for you and sex...
To Recap:
1. Figure out if you really want kids or not.
2. Fix yourself before you have kids
3. Teach them, love them, protect them, advocate for them. So they will do all that for
themselves.
To Recap:
1. Have a smaller wedding that you can afford so you can LIVE after the wedding instead of
OWING $$$$$$
2. Bond with your family with activities, goals, and a family motto
3. Learn to compromise and negotiate in your marriage and family
To Recap:
1. Be aware when people are trying to sell you junk you dont need
2. Dont watch junk tv
3. Get help if you have been raped
4. Be a feminist, dont let them take your rights
5. Be yourself, be unique, be a leader not a follower.
To Recap:
1. If you are shopping to fill a void in your life or depression, get help instead, get into therapy
2. If you are with a man whose a stealing loser with no job KICK HIM OUT!!!!!!!!!!!
3. Get on a budget, save money
4. Do not buy stupid crap you dont need
To Recap:
1. You do not have to be your parents religion.
2. You can chose a religion that feels right to you.
3. You dont have to have any religion at all.
4. Just have some MORALS so you arent a soul less asshole!
To Recap:
1. Get the anxiety and depression under control when you are still young
2. Stop blaming yourself for abuse youve suffered at the hands of others.
3. Report all abuse to the authorites
To Recap:
1. Start feeding your body right while you are still young
2. Start a fitness regime even if its a brisk daily walk for 20 mins
3. Eat nutritionally dense foods with lower carbs and healthy fats
4. Develop your own style and love and accept your body
5. Exercise to reduce stress
To Recap:
1) Get some interests and hobbies and join some clubs to meet similar people to make
friends.
2) Recognize which type of friend you can trust and which you cant.
3) Learn who is trustworthy and will be a True Blue bestie
4) Be guarded on the net but friendship is possible.
5) Be the kind of friend you want to have.
Timeline
This is the time line of how things should happen
1) Decide whether you can repair your family relationships.
2) If you cannot , then work on yourself thru therapy or group sessions online
3) Get some hobbies and interests so you can be INTERESTING and have things to talk about
on dates and places to go and things to do and have things in common.
4) Make sure you have your own friends first before dating.
5) Get on Birth Control, know your STD status.
6) Start playing the field, but dont sleep with these dates until you find someone you truly
like.
7) Go steady or commit
8) Get engaged or move in
9) Have 2 years or more as a happy FREE kidless couple to be wild and free and travel
10) Start setting up house in a starter home
11) Have kids